Sunday, 20 January 2013

EMOTIONAL HOMECOMINGS

We arrived home last Monday 14 January into the arms of loving family and bestest friends. We were tired after the flight, transit time and lack of sleep . At Melbourne airport there were queues a mile long for immigration and customs and I looked at all of that and groaned. My wonderful husband went off seeking help and on both occasions and we were able to jump the queue because of our triple treats in hand! Thank you to the wonderful staff at Melbourne airport for that!

Of course when we came out of the doors our family were waiting further down so there was the obligatory running towards each other and crying with babies in arms. I so loved cuddling my two sisters at once with our Lilly girl in my arms. Have you ever seen that movie "Love actually" where they film the comings and goings at an airport? It was very much like that but so much better!

It is so much easier being home and hubby and I think we have worked out the night routine so we are both getting about 5-6 hours of sleep with a core period of 4 hours in one block.

Our babies seemed amazed about what is around them and they all appear to be having growth spurts!

My family has been amazing, from one sister making a huge lasagne and stocking the fridge, to offering our nieces to help babysit overnight and during the day through to my other sister coming to help out on one of her only 2 days off per week. So many things really.....They are incredible.

On a very upsetting note, a visit to Andrew's mother so she could meet the babies didnt go too well. There was barely any interest and she asked us to leave within an hour or so of being there...furthermore when we were driving down the main road near where she lives, Andrew saw his brother so he stopped the car and asked him to come and meet his family. Andrew's brother rejected the offer saying he had to get back to work...he then turned away as Andrew kept calling him. It has deeply wounded Andrew.

After this we decided to go to my sister's place as she was nearby. Her husband welcomed us and the babies with open arms. He ran out and bought celebratory drinks and we stayed for the best pizza I have had in a long time. Andrew and Den talked about what happened and I love how Den supported Andrew with this issue. It was beautiful watching Den and Nic with our babies. I especially love the pic of Den smiling at Jack and Jack clearly smiling back - see below. Upon leaving their place, Denny talked about his culture (Punjabi) and gave us some money for the babies. This brought both Andrew and I to tears....Denny kept saying to us and he is so right "we may not have a big house but we both have big hearts". They are such good people and I love them so much.

I couldnt do this without my amazing family.....my sister Lindee  and her husband Neal have been amazing (she made the lasagne, stocked the fridge and pretty much kept lots of things under control for us whilst we were in India). I find myself talking to her about my feelings as a mother and it is so reassuring that my  feelings of inadequacy through to insanity are fairly normal!!!!)

Today we have bestest friends coming around including the honorary adopted Grandma Helen. Cant wait to see them - our friends Tracey and Nigel came to the airport when we left for India and also when we came home...they have been so supportive of us from the beginning and it is so wonderful for our babies to have these marvellous people in their lives! Very very luck babies!

Am getting very emotional so will sign off for now. Hope everyone is well out there in blogland.


Dr Shivani if you are reading this - thank you again for the most amazing gift. Hope to see you in a few years time.


9 comments:

  1. I was so upset to read this post. I cannot imagine how Andrew and you feel. You have your own family now and that is all that matters. Love to you.

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  2. You know I am crying reading this damm you LOL I am so happy you made it home. I am here with my little one and hoping to be out in 11 days as Poonam has told me. My family is going nuts wanting me to come home too. I am glad your dreams have happen and i am sorry that Andrews family still does not come around. I pry that some day they will. But remember this you made the right choice, and you are in life to make YOU happy and if you did that, then you did your job right :)
    MIchael

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  3. So sad that Andrew's mom will miss out on her lovely grandchildren - but is sounds like these babies are surrounded by love from your family. Andrew has you and the babies now and your love and the babies love for him will fill his heart with joy and blessings!! Your babies are so cute! I love the top picture of little jack smiling!!

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  4. I'm so happy your home. Enjoy your wonderful babies! You can't control other people being nasty, just let it remind you both how wonderful you are in comparison. They will both miss out. Love and hugs to your wonderful family x x x

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  5. Best wishes to the family! It's sad indeed to know that your hubby's family was not at all accepting of your family. It will be their lost. Hopefully, they will turn around. My partner and I hope to visit my family in Melbourne a year after taking our twins from India, so maybe we could meet and have a play date. :)

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  6. As I read this, that old saying "You can pick your friends but you can't pick your family" comes to mind. Even if Andrew's family never comes around, you guys are already blessed. Many people, including myself, can't say they have family as good hearted as yours. And those 3 precious little ones, they are indeed a blessing! xoxo

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  7. What a beautiful welcoming at the airport, I always dreamed of that for when we returned but sadly when we arrived nobody bothered to show up and I was really upset. We have the blessings of our families but I don't think they can imagine how amazing our journey's are to complete our families. What the heck is wrong with some people? I can't believe Andrew's family, it must be awful for him.
    With all that said you have all our love support and admiration. Would love to catch up soon xx

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  8. As others have said.. you have your family and that is the most important thing possible... it is sad for you all that the other family members are behaving this awful way... but it is their loss and you are now blessed with your little 3 and the rest of teh family who love and support you... take care and try not to let the nastiness get to you
    Paula xxx

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  9. I am so shocked by your husbands family i thought they would come round ..... i think i was wrong!!
    He must be so upset the saying is 'you can choose your friends you cant choose your family'!!! At the end of the day its they that are missing out on 3 beautiful babies, but you and your husband arent enjoy your babies and your very supportive family!!
    I love the film love actually !!
    take care
    lisa x

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